Asoebi clothes are essential in Nigerian Weddings.
Brides spend months looking for the perfect asoebi color and style for their special day. Mothers of the bride and groom even join the search for the perfect asoebi uniform for their ‘people’. You know how Nigerians like to show off.
I love hearing that I am part of the bridal train, and always look out for the material to be used. The asoebi is often the first thing I spot at any wedding. The asoebi colors and styles coupled with the hall decoration create the perfect atmosphere for such a momentous occasion.
But, in recent times, I have seen that Nigerians want to be mad.
In the course of their big day, brides have decided to dig deep holes in our pockets in the name of buying asoebi, selling them for over 50k to 100k.
Now, don’t come at me with the whole If-you-have-money-you-will-buy-it mantra. The girls you are selling this cloth to have lives to run, bills to pay, businesses to sort out, and dreams to achieve.
The price of asoebi cloth for one day is absolutely ridiculous!
To make matters worse, they now have two sets of asoebi- the lace one for the traditional marriage, and the other for the white wedding.
Here are five important reasons why we love you, but will not buy your asoebi:
1. We will not wear it again:
Nigerian Weddings are lowkey competitions. Everyone wants to outdo the other. Everyone wants to glitter and shine on their big day. As a result, most of these asoebi clothes are made with ridiculous materials that look ridiculous after the wedding.
To make matters worse, the asoebi styles are so complicated that we can’t wear it after that day, not even to church.
2. We will never wear it again:
Like, you don’t understand. We will never wear those clothes again. I have been blessed to witness some of my close family members and friends get married, and been part of their train.
As I write this, I have over 14 asoebi clothes lying peacefully in my closet. I can’t dash it to anyone or give it to the less privileged. I can’t transform it to something else because many of the styles are complicated and I just don’t have the time. Then you now want me to buy another asoebi at an outrageous amount, cloth that will still go and join its counterparts?
3. There are other expenses to consider asides the asoebi cloth:
Attending weddings are expensive these days. Let’s analyze it:
a. Engagement party:
Except you got engaged really privately, there are high chances that we were present at the event or party you were engaged at. Time spent.
b. Tailor fittings:
It’s not enough to just buy the material. You still have to pay to sew and make several trips to ensure it’s the right fit and style. Money and time spent.
c. Bridal shower:
These have become very trendy and perfect for Instagram, even though there is no need for one. Just a bunch of girls partying with the future bride before her big day. The asoebi girls often plan this with their money to surprise the bride. Money and time spent.
d. Traditional marriage:
For those of us who can’t do makeup to save our lives, we have to hire a professional to handle our makeup, and it’s not small money. Some brides now insist that our shoe color has to be cockroach brown with a tint of NYSC green, so we have to buy new shoes for ourselves even when we have enough. We haven’t added the cost of sewing the asoebi clothes, and the transportation fee if the traditional marriage is in the girl’s hometown.
e. White wedding/After-party:
Same thing applies. Transportation. Hotel accommodation (if you’re coming from another state). Makeup. New shoes, bags, everything.
f. Asoebi clothes for other weddings:
One of the major reasons why we come for weddings is to sell our market. If there is no potential buyer at your wedding, we still have to go to other weddings to sell, and expenses are waiting for us there.
You know all these extra expenses and your asoebi is still costly.
Like, how do you want your thunder? You want it solemn or with a bit of display?
4. You can’t use your friends to make money:
From research, some people who sell expensive asoebi claim that it’s to help them raise small money to offset other wedding expenses, and to keep up with the Joneses. We understand that you are trying to get and save money during your wedding.
But that shouldn’t include defrauding your friends that are hustling like you.
You can make your wedding really great on a budget. There are lots of professionals that can give you quality for less. Help us so we can help you on your big day.
5. Friendship is most important, not the asoebi cloth:
Opting to be part of your train is enough sacrifice already. We love you regardless of whether your wedding was simple or extravagant. So, stop trying to cut losses. Cut your coat according to the money you have. Read about how to improve your spending habits here.
If you still insist on the cost, then I can’t buy it. It’s not by force to be friends.
What are your worst wedding train experiences (for both males and females)? Kindly share them in the comment section below. Do well to share to friends and family