You asked for it and it’s here. What are those things Nigerian men are tired of hearing? A lot!. That’s right. Being a Nigerian man also comes with its own drama. I interviewed a few guys and they were more than glad to tell me what they can’t stand when it’s thrown at them.
Just like the women, Nigerian men too face their daily challenges and sometimes do not get credit enough for them. They get words thrown at them by men, women, and children but are expected to ”be a man” about it.
Things You Shouldn’t Tell Nigerian Men
“Be a man”
”be a man” is the statement that is supposed to fix any man’s problem. Men complain about something, no matter how big, they are instantly told to be a man. This statement can be quite confusing considering they are already men. So figuratively it translates to ”bottle up your feelings, no one cares because you have a penis”. It also translates further to ”you shouldn’t care that we don’t care because… Well, you have a penis”. Please next time a man talks to you about his problems, instead of throwing that poor insensitive sentence, try listening to them. Give them advice if you can. Let them know ”being a man” isn’t such a bad thing.
”men are scum”
Men are scum has to be one of the most used statements on the internet, the junior brother ”men will embarrass you” is next. So much it just naturally rolls off the tongue or the mind. Nigerian men don’t like this. Men in general. Both the scum and the non-scum. We know some men out there do “Scumish” things. They break hearts, lie, cheat, etc. but any gender can do that. Not only is this statement annoying, but it’s also repetitive. If a man breaks your heart, don’t go “men are scum”, instead use “Kunle is a scum.” Much better.
“men shouldn’t cry”
If men are not supposed to cry, they wouldn’t and shouldn’t be able to produce tears in the first place. Telling men they should not express themselves in ways such as crying, laughing, texting, etc because they are men is just plain mean. If a man is crying next to you, please don’t use this sentence. A lot of us complain men are reserved and hate expressing themselves. Maybe they don’t hate it, they are just scared of the judgment that comes right after. So guys, next time you’re ready to open the flood gates, do so unapologetically.
“All men are rapists/dogs” to all Nigerian men
This is a solid statement right after men are scum. Ejor, please stop that nonsense. I’m very sure there are good guys out there. Those who aren’t rapists. I honestly don’t know any dog-man but I’m curious as well. Stop calling men dogs, they are tired of hearing it. Again if you must, use their names e.g “Emeka is a dog”. The world is scary and I know it gets to you. But not all men are rapists.
“Send me transport before I can come” to Nigerian men every single time
Along with card before you can call. It’s easy to call a man cheap because he doesn’t want to do this always for you. But looking at it from a bigger picture, men have feelings too. If he always has to give you money to come to see him, or airtime to call him, that shows you don’t care. If you were in his shoes, honestly, how would that make you feel?. Even if you don’t have money, try saving a little. So maybe next time you won’t ask for money to enter the road to go and see your own man.
The sad thing about some of the statements men hate hearing comes from themselves. Telling your bro to man up because he wants to cry is just as toxic as a girl telling him the same thing. So let’s continuously considering each other’s feelings when we open our mouths to talk. What other statement do you hate hearing as a man? Let us know below.