Do you just love it when people take out time to appreciate you? Does it make you feel loved? If it does, then you probably have words of affirmation as your love language. This is the second part of my six-part journey of the five love languages. If you didn’t see the first article about receiving gifts, all you have to do is click that link.
So if you are ready to explore the world of words of affirmation, let’s begin!
What it means to have words of affirmation as your love language
As explained in the first article, your love languages signify how you show love and how you wish to be shown love. So, really, it works both ways. To find out exactly what love language you are, you can take the test here.
So how do you show someone with this love language that you love them?
1. Show that you appreciate them
This works like magic. You just have to make them feel truly valued. It’s not just about the words. It’s about meaning them and saying them in the right circumstances. Make sure you are always out there supporting them when they score big points in their careers or life.
2. Compliment them
Words of affirmation mean you have to compliment them. People with this love language want to hear those compliments. If you want to spot people with this love language, all you have to do is watch out for them trying to fish out those compliments.
If you deny them compliments, then you might lose them to another person who is simply a smooth talker.
3. Sexual Affirmation
Words of affirmation also apply to sex and other sexual activities. People with words of affirmation are similar to physical touch in this category. They want to hear how you feel. They also want you to say things that make them feel loved or turns them on.
If you are looking for a way to spice up your sex life for your partner, there is the ultimate hint.
What you should absolutely not do
When dealing with someone with words of affirmation, somethings should not be done or said.
When dealing with someone whose primary love language is words of affirmation, try not to criticize them. Instead, try to give them suggestions on how they can improve.
Just like compliments make them feel loved, criticizing them in any way makes them feel like you absolutely hate them.
If you are someone who really doesn’t like to compliment people, then you can make the effort to learn more about compliments. Google is always your friend in these situations. Try to learn as much as you can about this love language. This is important if your partner has it as their primary love language.